What we ask for isn't necessarily what we desire. The asking lies in our feelings and the beliefs behind them - our attitudes and expectations. If we are anxious, hostile, envious, resentful, etc... those are projected into the world and returned as unwanted life experiences. We live in a safe universe if that is the one we create for ourselves.
Our experiences are not independent, random events but in harmony with the feelings and beliefs we hold. If we believe we are unworthy, events in our lives will be consistent with that; see ourselves as wonderful, decent human beings and the universe will confirm that. It isn't a matter of responding fairly; what returns to us are physical life experiences which match the essence of our beliefs and feelings.